December 29, 2022
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One of our deepest longings — deeper than we even perhaps recognise day to day — is that other people should acknowledge certain of our feelings.
We want that — at key moments — our sufferings should be understood, our anxieties noticed and our sadness lent legitimacy.
We don't want others necessarily to agree with all our feelings, but what we crave is that they at least validate them.
When we are furious, we want another person to say: I can see that you've been driven to distraction. It must feel very chaotic for you inside right now.
When we are sad, we want someone to say: I know you're unusually down and I understand the reasons why.
And when we can't take it all anymore, we want someone gently to utter: It's been too much for you, hasn't it? I recognise that so well; of course it has.
It all sounds desperately simple, and in a way it is. And yet how little of this emotional nectar of acknowledgement we ever in fact receive or gift to one another.
The habit of not having one's feelings properly acknowledged begins in childhood. Parents, even the most loving ones, frequently stumble in this domain.